What ever happened to the value or marriage or family unity? What about teen pregnancy?

I am so sick of reading questions that start of with ..." my sister is pregnant, she is 13" or ..."help! I'm 15 and pregnant". Where do these people come from? I truly am starting to believe that it is a serious lack in marriage and family unity and values in the UK that has led to parents not being able to raise their children correctly, or at least teach their children to cross their legs or keep the white eared elephant in the cage.

I noticed that the amount of people in here who say " my partner and I" is getting out of control. Well if children see that their parents do not have to commit to anything serious then why should they. After all getting pregnant might be fun just like mommy and daddy. "They aren't married, they don't use protection, they party and only care about themselves. So why can't I" Trust me teens are smarter than you think, they act very dumb but it is actually a defense mechanism ( I'm not kidding) I'm just saying that I'm sick of this!!!! Are you?
What ever happened to the value or marriage or family unity? What about teen pregnancy?
I understand what you are saying and I agree with you. I am going through a divorce right now and it has been 10 months. I have full custody of my kids. Their mother has not seen the kids in almost 3 months. She decided to just get a new boyfriend.



With all the broken marriages, kids do not see the importance of it. Adults are playing house so why cant they. Is their no one that leads by example anymore?



Even though I am going through my divorce, I have the kids and I am teaching them the best I can. I cannot help what their mother did. I show them teenage parents and the trouble they are going through. I believe in letting them see it first hand. My daughter is 11 and she understands reality.



I have asked a teen mom to talk to my daughter and she really told her what it is like.
Reply:Ah... they take God out of our country, and the morals go out right along with him. Bring the Lord back into the family unit, into the schools and into the government and we'd see a blessed change....
Reply:It's always been this way, it's just that these days we get into contact more with the people who do these things.



Kids got pregant when I was at school in a rough area, just I didn't know them cause they weren't my friends.
Reply:thanks.you read my mind.i feel exactly like you.and sick of it.i pray to teach my kids to have principles.you want children you marry you dont have a "partner" and if you are young(teenager)grow up and when you are independent you can make that decision.abstinance.
Reply:They aren't stupid, just desperate. Verrrry desperate. I wouldn't say I'm getting sick of it (if you know what I mean) but I understand where you're coming from and it really is getting out of control.
Reply:teenagers get pregnant for 1 of 3 reasons, in my experience:

1. they are bored.

2. they are trying to "trap" their boyfriend.

3. they want a council house.
Reply:It wierd isn't it? I think its got to do with all the promiscuity and vanity that we are exposed to through terrible media. Sex, loose relationships etc are all part of what it is to be a confident young person today. Its all so contray to what young people need to be happy. But like you say, teenagers are v. intelligent, and rest assured there are LOADS who are doing the right thing and are on track to do well.
Reply:Marriage has become disposable. It is easier to end a marriage than to start one. My parents divorced when I was 5, my mom remarried and she ended up divorced again (he was abusive) And what makes you think that without a piece of paper the bond and commitment between two people means nothing? My Partner and I have been together for 14 years and have two children. We are as committed to each other and our family than many, if not most, legally married people. And as far as showing our children what commitment means we do that everyday just by being there for each other and them. Our family is the tie that binds us together and this tie is more strong than any disposable marriage can ever be. Now as for teen pregnancy, I think that it may be some kind of fad, at least where I live. I see girls who are the age of my daughter (13) who are sexually active with multiple partners and I ask myself, where are their parents. I think some parents are so self involved that they are blind to what their kids are doing, and it has nothing to do with whether or not they hold a marriage certificate. Bad parenting is not exclusive to un-married couples. I think the most important things to teach teenage girls is self respect, dignity, respect for others, and respect for your family.
Reply:yes i agree with you when i was at school many moons ago we had films on pregnacy it looked so painfull but their againyou were brought up properly its kids bringing up kids they thnk they are really big when they havnt a clue they get pregnant thendont know who the boy friend isyou cant call these audults because they are not no respect no pride great big earrings and a big mouth you very rarley see some one who you cansay looks nice they dont they all look the same
Reply:I agree with you 100%
Reply:I understand completely. It actually makes me sad to think that the young generation has accepted the ideas of STD's, unprotected sex, drinking, drugs, and pregnancy. It comes from a serious lack of responsibility and maturity. Parents need to become more involved with their children and teach them that these behaviors should not be tolerated.
Reply:You are so very right, and it's a sad world out there. Some people just lose their morals and think that having sex is something to do at any age nowadays.



Keep in mind that many of the postings here are made up, there are adults on here who tend to just abuse the internet with fake stories. Unfortunately, though, I'm sure that many of the "I'm 15 and pregnant..." posts are true.
Reply:I agree with you but parents arnt allow to disipline their kids anymore