I caught my husband watching porn on-line?

I am four months pregnant with twins and have been married for two years... last night after my husband and I had sex I woke up to find him glued to the computer with ear phones on watching a nasty, skank filled porno. I am so sad!!! I was very, very fit before I got pregnant and I have already gained 15 lbs due to the twins, I feel like an elephant. Now, I don't feel like I am good enough for my husband, maybe my baby fat is making him want to stray??? I am devastated, any advice?
I caught my husband watching porn on-line?
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Reply:I don't know why you think he strayed because you caught him watching porn late at night. Most men do.



I know you are insecure because you are pregnant, but don't be so hard on yourself. You didn't do anything wrong and nether did he.



Sometimes men need the extra visualization, and just because you are pregnant is not the reason why he chose to look at porn. He probably has been doing it for a long time, and does it when he can't sleep.



Please don't be so hard on yourself and him, it has nothing to do with your weight or you, it's just a personal preference.
Reply:Ugh. For the record. All men do not watch porn. Watching porn is actually not a natural thing. What did people do before there was porn and tv, and strip clubs?



As for your question, I can only suggest you talk to him. Tell him you caught him pleasing himself to porn, and it hurts your feelings. I'm not going to say that "if he loves you he'll stop" Thats not always the case. Maybe he's thinking of you, while he's watching porn. Maybe he's pretending whats going on is you and him. In any case. It's probably not because you're gaining weight that he went to porn. You said in your question that you "woke up" and found him watching porn. Seems like he didn't want to wake you up, so he did the nice thing and let you sleep. You're pregnant, so getting sleep is going to get harder and harder. I'd be glad that he didn't wake me up.
Reply:well talk to your husband if you married it should be a open relationship. Though he might just have a liking to watch porn and isn't doing it because he doesn't like you.Though if it really bothers you just simply tell him you rather not see him watching porn or him watching it all when he has you.



Also consider porn is very fake in order to arouse the viewers so the feel self-conscious compared to the ladies in porns because don't honestly look like that
Reply:um first of all if you are having twins that's not your fault that your getting bigger every one gets bigger that's good for the young ones and when you have those twins you can always loose that baby after fat and if he's looking up porn maybe it's because he isn't comfortable about having sex with you while your pregnancy have you ever considered that. it's not you it's probably just the hole pregnancy thing all guys are like that they worry about hurting the baby and things like that so don't take it too personal he's a man he's just probably trying to get some excitement with out using you while your pregnant
Reply:Well Im not married but everybody watches porn. Even men who are married and hav sex on a regular basis watch porn. For some its just a form of entertainment. Long as he's not cheating yur ok. Some couples watch it together before and during sex for extra pleasure. So dont worry, if it gets worse than him watchin porn, then thats when yu get worried..
Reply:Talk to him about it and tell him your feelings. If you want him to stop ask him. If he loves you he will. I have been through all kinds of stuff like this with my husband. I think its because we married so young and he didnt really get too much experience with the ladies....so I just let him know how I felt and he stopped then started it all up again so I left. He understood that time! Hasnt looked at even a girl since. Gotta mold them lol Good Luck!
Reply:the very best thing to do is talk to him.

go out on a date and ask him if he still has feelings for you. just take it slow. tell him that "its for the twins" Talk to him and maybe he has ideas for the bedroom for you two?



the best thing is to talk.
Reply:I, too have been in this situation, but not pregnant. It hurt my feelings but the only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Hopefully he will respect the fact that it hurts your feelings so much and not do it anymore.
Reply:So? My married father has porn.



Why did someone thumb me down? I think its perfectly normal and when I say Porn I mean LOTS of porn. Sorry but males wanting to be turned on is natural whether you want to accept it or not.
Reply:girl, this is the BEST time of yo life, dont let that man get you down. its what men do, they love to ****. so enjoy. and good luck with your babies, tell them aysia says hello and i love them%26lt;33
Reply:I think guys and porn is like milk and cookies... they just go together... you said youd just had sex maybe he was still horny but didnt want to "bug" you because your a pregnant woman, and all men know not to annoy a pregnant woman :P
Reply:Talk to him about it. Be very honest about how it makes you feel. If he respects you and loves you enough, then he will stop watching it.
Reply:All men watch porn, my husband does and he's the most caring husband and father I've ever seen. You're pregnant, your hormones are all over the place. Don't take it personally.
Reply:this question should be under family %26amp; relationships.



but, all guys watch porn. its normal they can't control their urges.
Reply:men watch porn,

it's natural,

embrace it,

rent one and watch it with him.



he'll love you even more.
Reply:Uh, he's a typical man, get over it. Watching porn is not cheating.
Reply:just see what happens after you have the twins. maybe he will love you more than ever and congratulations
Reply:Well, I caught my bf too and I'm about to break up... men are jerks... women are so evoluate!
Reply:I caught my husband, Nathan Hamm, doing the same thing! What a silly-billy!
Reply:Maybe he's getting ideas for what he can do to you?
Reply:why did you post this in adolescent section?
Reply:dump his ***
Reply:First off this shouldn't be in the adolescent section. I trust it was an honest mistake though.



This happened to me when I was expecting my first child too. I found evidence that my husband was looking at porn online. He didn't know I knew till I confronted him.



I was young only 20 at the time. I didn't know how to talk to him about this. So I sent him an email. I know that may sound crazy, but sometimes some things are just so hard to say.



A few hours later he came home early. I was on the computer and didn't see him but heard him come in. He came up behind me and hugged me. He had been crying and told me he was so sorry. He asked him to forgive him and let me know it would never happen again.



I really doubt your husband is looking at it due to how you look. It is natural for a man to want to look at porn, but it can KILL a married.



The bible says "But I say to you, That whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.." Matthew 5:28



That is so true! Married couples should only enjoy each other %26amp; think of each other in a sexual way.



Did your husband know that you caught him? If not you need to confront him. Feel free to write him a note or talk to him what ever you feel is best but do it in a nontreating way.



Tell him how you saw him, be honest and let him know how it made you feel.



He may think there is nothing wrong with looking at porn but there is. Look at these links and show him if you must:



http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0...



http://www.family.ie/marriage/dangers.ht...



http://www.everystudent.com/wires/toxic....



http://www.growthtrac.com/artman/publish...



I hope this helps.



I saw some of the awful comments you had. I think it is due to it being posted in the teen section and marriage.
Reply:What a douche.

That's just sad; he has a wife and he looks at porn?????

Thats just messed up. Tell him off! It's sad enough to look at that stuff and have a girl friend, but married after you had sex?????
Reply:he is a jerk.